Tag: mental resilience

  • Disability Pride vs. Healing: Are We Falling into Ableism?

    The relationship between Disability Pride and healing is complex and multifaceted. While Disability Pride can be a powerful tool for self-acceptance and empowerment, it is essential to balance it with the importance of healing and recovery.

    What is disability pride?
    Disability pride is the acceptance and honoring of each person’s uniqueness, viewing it as a natural and beautiful part of human diversity. It celebrates the disabled identity and promotes self-determination, combating stigma and shame associated with disabilities.

    What is healing?

    Healing is the act or process of curing or of restoring to health. It is the process of becoming well again, especially after a cut or other injury, or of making someone well again. Wounds should be covered with a gauze dressing while healing occurs. Healing can also refer to the process in which a bad situation or painful emotion ends or improves.

    Here are some key points to consider:


    Disability Pride as a Source of Healing: Pride can foster a sense of community and connection among individuals with disabilities, which can be therapeutic. It can also serve as a reminder of the strength and resilience that come with living with a disability.

    Balancing Pride with Healing: It is important to recognize that pride and healing are not mutually exclusive. Individuals with disabilities can benefit from both aspects of the Disability Pride movement and personal healing processes.

    Addressing Ableism: The movement for Disability Pride is also a response to ableism, which can be a barrier to healing and personal growth. By challenging and countering ableism, individuals with disabilities can create a more inclusive and supportive environment for themselves and their communities.


    Seeking Professional Help: For those struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues related to their disability, seeking therapy from a professional trained in disability issues can be beneficial.

    Fostering a Culture of Healing: It is crucial to create a culture that values the healing process and recognizes the importance of personal growth and recovery alongside Disability Pride. This can involve advocating for accessible healthcare, educational resources, and legal protections that support the needs of individuals with disabilities.

    In conclusion, while Disability Pride is a vital aspect of the journey towards healing and personal growth, it is essential to maintain a balance between the two. By embracing both aspects, individuals with disabilities can work towards a more fulfilling and empowered life.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ywYUJ8ORxI&list=PL9lUmHuFTiytByr_ZlUySjdkgUkpGojtP

    https://www.instagram.com/p/DJm0ALnNEdJ/

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/disability-is-diversity/202008/how-disability-pride-fights-ableism?msockid=30a9b117ac516ec22315a595ad9a6fc2

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  • Disability & Trauma: The concept of trauma, the impact on our Emotions and overall well being


    Definitions of trauma
    Psychological trauma is the overwhelming experience of extreme events that exceed a person’s ability to cope and integrate these experiences. Trauma affects individuals in different ways and there are a number of different identifications depending on the nature, severity and timescales of the symptoms of trauma. Trauma starts in the brain.

    3 E’s of Trauma

    Event

    Experience

    Effects

    3 R’s of Trauma

    Resist

    Respond

    React

    DISABILITY AND TRAUMA

    Trauma can be either Harmful or Life-Threatening.

    In survival mode, the brain is programmed for scarcity. Lying, manipulating, and cheating can be a result of trauma. Surviving can also be masking or trauma bonding.

    The frontal lobe of the brain makes it difficult to heal from trauma and forgive. Because of its location in the anterior part of the head, the frontal lobe is arguably more susceptible to injuries. Following a frontal lobe injury, an individual’s abilities to make good choices and recognize consequences are often impaired.

    15 years can be cut off of your life if you don’t heal from trauma.

    When you have LIMITED KNOWLEDGE OF RIGHTS, you become MORE VULNERABLE which leaves a STIGMA.

    When you are MARGINALISED, it implies, ‘I DON’T SEE YOU’.

    Trauma lenses give additional perspective to understanding behaviour. Mistrust, neglect, abandonment, rejection, shame, frustration, bitterness and anger contributes to it too.

    So, Does Trauma Affect Seizure Activity? 

    Yes, trauma can lead to non-epileptic seizures. Dissociative seizures may occur as a person’s reaction to painful emotions or thoughts that affect their body in the form of seizing. These seizures, also known as “pseudo-seizures,” are the most common type of non-epileptic seizures. Non-epileptic “pseudo-seizures” may occur as the body’s overwhelmed response to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). 

    Another name for dissociative seizures based on trauma is Psychogenic Non-Epileptic Seizures (PNES). Research shows that PNES may occur due to the initiation of traumatic memory fragments. The seizure activity will occur as the body’s defence mechanism, as dissociation occurs. The altered state of consciousness relieves the person, as it prevents them from feeling the overwhelming emotions related to the traumatic event or experiences. Often, these individuals are not aware of the reasons related to their seizure activity.

    Did you know that Autism is trapped trauma?

    Autism and trauma are strongly correlated. Autistic individuals are at increased risk of experiencing adverse life events, such as bullying, victimisation, maltreatment, and discrimination. Trauma can make ASD symptoms more challenging to live with, such as social anxiety and overstimulation. Autistic people may have difficulties communicating their trauma and coping with their emotions. They may also face trauma from the pressure to conform to social conventions that are not suited for them.

    Overexplaining can be a trauma response, but as a woman with a disability, you find yourself talking a lot when advocating for yourself too. Shame, guilt, and the need to prove something can be trauma responses.

    Psychological interventions for trauma
    Chartered Psychologists are trained to the highest level in diverse interventions for trauma, adjustment disorder, stress and associated diagnoses. Evidence has consistently indicated that the best results for treating trauma are achieved through individual trauma-focused treatments (Ehring et al., 2014).

    EMDR
    Eye-Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing therapy (EMDR) uses rhythmic bilateral stimulation including eye movement and sensory stimuli. The aim of EMDR is to change the way that a specific memory is stored and processed in the brain. EMDR uses a structured eight-phase approach through which the therapist will guide the patient through. Unlike other trauma-focused treatments, EMDR does not include extended exposure to the traumatic memories, challenging of dysfunctional thought processes or ongoing independent effort to change behaviour.

    Since it’s conception in 1987, EMDR therapy has increased in awareness. It is now a well-regarded recommendation for individuals with trauma following incidents such as road traffic accidents and clinical negligence.

    Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (TF-CBT)
    TF-CBT is an evidence-based model of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy that has been adapted to the symptoms of trauma. The focus of CBT is to challenge trauma related cognition and offer tools to change thought processes. The model is a structured, short-term treatment method that has been proven to reduce a range of trauma-related symptoms in between 8-25 sessions. TF-CBT aims to provide psycho-education to children and adolescents suffering with PTSD and their caregivers, consequently equipping them with the skills to redesign their perception of the traumatic memories. The treatment has been shown to significantly reduce symptoms of PTSD, depression, anxiety, maladaptive behaviours, and negative emotions associated to trauma.

    Counselling
    Trauma therapists can assist an individual with trauma to explore distressing memories and dysfunctional thought processes. The therapist will offer exercises and tools that can combat states of hyper-arousal and affective dysregulation. Overcoming these challenging states allows the patient to process and understand trauma symptoms. The focus of counselling is to develop ways to work through traumatic experiences in a supportive environment.

    Furthermore, the flexibility in counselling makes it valuable for considering the social networks in a person’s life that can affect recovery. There are no guidelines on treatment longevity, and this is established according to individual requirements.

    Practical application and assessment
    The skill in assessing trauma, is to find the key to change. This key is found in people’s unprocessed memories, dysfunctional thoughts or even social networks. Therefore, a psychologist will take the individual’s history into account to ensure a holistic, trauma-informed approach.

    The broader impact of trauma is an important consideration in psychological assessments. Trauma is one of the most common effects of injury or clinical negligence, with the impacts of the event(s) leading to further issues with functioning, employment, relationships, substance misuse and only through consideration of these factors can we develop a comprehensive understanding of how to effectively assess the impact of trauma and make predictions on the efficacy of treatment.

    Positive Affirmation is key!
    Process your feelings.
    What you cannot change, change your perspective about it.
    What you accept will continue to transfer.

    What are you internalising?

    Hugging oneself and self-love are therapeutic methods to help you to heal. Destigmatise therapy and mental health issues.

    https://www.psychologyexperts.org/2019/03/28/psychological-assessments-trauma/#:~:text=Psychological%20trauma%20is%20the%20overwhelming%20experience

    https://sanacounselling.ca/blog/emotional-trauma-can-it-cause-epilepsy

    http://www.themultifacetedsoul.com

    https://www.verywellhealth.com/frontal-lobe-head-trauma-1720020

    https://www.wikihow.health/Identify-Trauma-in-Autistic-People

  • Mental Resilience: Zoom Etiquette- Maximising its use as a tool!

    It’s a video world these days, and we have been thrust into it, with very little preparation. What was previously the domain of Hollywood, celebrities and politicians is now commonplace for all of us at work and play. Here are a few tips for becoming a video conferencing star or at least avoiding some of the common mistakes.

    Family Cyber Clinic is a YouTube channel to help parents enhance their skills so that they are up to speed with the rest of the world and the younger generation.

    It is by a Cyber Security Expert; Lawrence Idem, a Pastor who loves God and married with three children/daughters, that hosted the Zoom meeting. He also uses Skype and Microsoft Teams. However Skype has been more popular pre-pandemic.

    Etiquette

    • Know when your microphone is muted and when it’s not. Even when you’re not speaking an open (not muted) microphone injects noise into the sound track. Mute when you are not talking!

    • Try not to interrupt or talk over someone else. The result is often unintelligible.

    It’s all about effective communication! With a little bit of planning and attention, the results will be

    immediate, and your techniques will become second nature.

    Looking Good on Web Cams

    Furthermore, avoid Backlight – An open window behind you, with daylight streaming in, and

    insufficient light on your face will create a dark silhouette that obscures your face.

    Actually, any overly bright background can cause this problem.

    Solutions:

    • Close the curtains, shade or move the Computer/Webcam to a new location.

    • Add some front lighting such as a lamp or general room lighting.

    • Use that problem window by facing toward it.

    • The screen of a Laptop or Tablet will actually light up your face, but the screen contents may be

    colours, and be changing constantly.

    Takeaways:

    • Avoid bright lighting behind you

    • Soft (diffused) light is better than hard, focused beams of light

    • Bright ambient light is good, but Fluorescent lighting is often unflattering for humans. Warm

    lighting is best.

    Frame Yourself Correctly

    Video Conferencing is normally about people’s faces. Correct framing will maximize expressive delivery of what you have to say and minimize distractions.

    Adjust the camera (if it can be done) or move physically closer to produce a chest to hair closeup. Unless of course a wider or specialized shot is specifically required. Do not leave too much headroom and centre yourself in the frame.

    The Eyes Have It!

    “The eyes are the mirror to the soul” and eye contact is critical to engagement with your audience. To achieve that in video conferencing set up your web cam/yourself so that you can speak to it the same way you would address a person in front of you.

    Imagine the web cam is a face. Then use direct eye contact as much as you can.

    Background Replacement

    Most modern video conference offer the ability to replace your background with a picture or even a video, without a traditional “Green Screen”. This allows you to present yourself in any environment that you have a photo of, and additionally avoids revealing the state of your housekeeping. If you use a virtual background, use a green screen.

    • Tip – Avoid waving your hands around to avoid distracting video artifacts.

    • Tip – Slow movements track well and fast movement increase bandwidth requirements.

    • Tip – Light yourself properly.

    • Tip – Do not use wardrobe colours that blend into your environment. The A. I. gets fooled and does not do a clean cut-out.

    Clothing

    • Avoid intense colours and in particular, avoid bright red or hot pink. These colours can blur and bleed with some cameras.

    • Fine grained patterns, complex prints and fine horizontal lines can also cause problems in some

    situations.

    • Always wear pants in case you have to stand up!

    Sounding Good in a Video Conference

    Generally, web conference sound leaves much to be desired. Hears a few tips for sounding good.

    Choose the Best Location

    • Avoid environments that are noisy – close your eyes and really listen.

    • Shiny smooth walls, ceilings and floors often make your voice sound “hollow” because of echoes and “boomy” resonances.

    • Control interruptions – silence your cell phones and let the people around you know you are “ON AIR”.

    Microphone Technique

    • Know where the microphone is located if it is embedded in your Computer/Laptop/Tablet/Phone.

    • Staying physically close to the microphone is good. Too far away sounds faint, hollow and noisy.

    • Speak clearly, articulate, and don’t turn away from the microphone.

    • Maintain a good volume – Don’t shout and don’t whisper.

    • Consider using a headphone/microphone combination.

    Why Zoom?

    Zoom is now more popular because of the pandemic and Microsoft teams is enterprise/business bound. He stated that virtual meetings/events are an immersion of the real thing/scenarios which cuts down on actual time that was supposed to be spent. As such social interaction requires respect, etiquette, manners, undivided attention, mental resilience, and concentration.

    However, over 80% of people who attend Zoom meetings, don’t come on camera and this not fair on the host because Zoom meetings lay down ground rules. If you don’t follow ground rules, you tell the host you don’t care about them. Zoom fatigue is a thing. We don’t like the format of the meeting hence we’re tired.

    Therefore, he stated that we need mental resilience. Preparation is key. Be presentable. For example, if you don’t want to be recorded you leave the meeting. Imagine going to a party and leaving your head behind?

    Choose a good background so we can see you. It’s disrespectful when you eat, drink and don’t look presentable on a Zoom meeting. Give undivided attention. Don’t fall asleep. Try not to multitask. When you multitask, you’re not giving your undivided attention.

    If you’re not prepared to speak, don’t attend the meeting. It creates a bad host-guest relationship.

    If you want to sound your best use a speaker phone, especially if you’re using your phone instead of your laptop. Get close to your microphone if you’re using a laptop.

    Update tools you use to deliver meetings. If you host a Zoom meeting, don’t do it without a waiting room, breakout room or password. This will prevent lateness.

    Don’t put meeting ID or password on a flyer. Zoom bombers can ambush the meeting and disturb it. The wrong people may attend your meeting. The host will be upset by uninvited guests crashing the meeting. Zoom etiquette demands that you show your screen. Don’t wear your pyjamas to a Zoom meeting, even if it’s at night.

    If you don’t follow these rules, it will impact interviews and business meetings. You must prepare. Bad habits become bad behaviour!

    However, in-person meetings are different. You wouldn’t multitask if you are in person.

    Virtual events can never replace in person events!

  • MENTAL RESILIENCE WORKSHOP   UNDERSTANDING YOUR BODY:                                               FIBROMYALGIA AND MENOPAUSE

    MENTAL RESILIENCE WORKSHOP UNDERSTANDING YOUR BODY: FIBROMYALGIA AND MENOPAUSE


    Ebony Ambassadors CIC Mental Resilience Workshops on Zoom was a huge success and well attended.
    The FIRST SPEAKER was QUEEN ESTHER OSAKWE, A Community activist, founder of Life improvement consults, Miss Commonwealth for Africa 2021/2022 as well as Project Manager for Ebony Ambassadors (voluntary role).
    Esther’s history is one that will inspire you. She was born with Spina Bifida Occulta (hidden) which she only discovered when she was a teenager. She was sexually abuse at a young age and deeply wounded by the trauma she experienced so much so she rejected herself, her roots was severely depressed and very combative in nature.
    However, despite having survived sexual abuse, homelessness, domestic violence, shame and trauma that comes with having a child out of wedlock, and then a failed marriage, Esther proved what it means to be mentally resilient as she strived against all odds.
    She is currently dating and lives alone with her three daughters.


    The SECOND SPEAKER was ANTONIA ADEBISI ADEBOWALE who is women development specialist, health champion for women, and a Mary Kay independent Consultant. She said during her speech that “Her past does not define who she is”. She reminds herself of who she is no matter what she goes through.
    She was originally diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, in 2015. When Antonia got diagnosed, she was scared.
    Fibromyalgia is an invisible and chronic illness that causes pain, fatigue and trouble in sleeping. It can cause depression, whole body is sensitive to pain, migraines and brain Fog.
    Actual cause of Fibromyalgia is not yet known and there isn’t a particular cure for it yet. Although there has been some link between Fibromyalgia and stress.
    We were encouraged to go to the doctor, to get checked if we notice any change in your body. Regular check-ups will help you to understand what is happening when you sense change in the body or experience symptoms you are not familiar with.
    She also spoke on symptoms to look out for during pre- Menopause and Menopause as well as what to do to help reduce the stress that come with it.


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RRw6Xd1oVA

    http://www.ebonyambassadors.org